Some years ago my good wife bought me a fancy grilling utensil set from Williams Samoma. I mean fancy with big long handles on all the things. Heck, the knife looks like a small spear. The tongs were so strong it took two hands to close them. All came with a fancy apron with big pockets. When we remodeled our kitchen a couple of years ago, I put them all in a box, and haven’t been able to find them since. Good riddance. I now have a cheap tongs about 15 inches long that I use for about everything. I bought a big wide spatula to help to take cooked things off of the grill, and I have an old faithful hunting knife I use to nick meats to check for doneness. I get on a yearly basis it seems a cheap pair of leather gloves from the garden store to grab hot logs in the smoker, and I made a coal poker out of ½ inch steel pipe with an elbow and short piece for a handle. That is about it.
Well I can tell you the tongs I have from there don't have that problem. I rather think the spring is just right and like that it has 3 positions and the length. Besides the tongs, I only use the spatula and on occasion the basting brush. I also have a WIlliams-Sonoma suede mitt I like that I use for bringing in the hot cast iron fajita pan and using the 'gardening pitch fork' to rake the coals out.